Connecting Through Touch

How do I touch well?

Have you ever considered this question?

What about these questions?

  • Who is touching who?
  • Am I giving or receiving the touch that’s happening?
  • How do I know if my touch is welcome?
  • How do I know if my touch feels good?
  • What do I do if I don’t like how someone else is touching me?
  • How can I communicate all of this without hurting feelings?

Touch can be so simple and comforting, but it can also feel confusing and strange.

It might be a relief to know that it doesn’t have to be awkward.

Let’s make touch more comfortable for you. I’m keen to offer an experience that will teach you how to connect through the sense of touch, learn to touch with more clarity about your intentions, and learn to feel pleasure through your hands. I have a feeling you’re really curious about how to better access your body’s ability to feel and experience sensation and pleasure. And you’d probably like to improve your skills in offering comfort and pleasure through touch.

Have you ever wondered:

  • why you’re not comfortable receiving, and how to become comfortable with it?
  • about what your intentions are when you’re touching?
  • what someone else’s intentions are when they’re touching you?
  • how to touch your children and teach them what healthy touch is?
  • how to tell the difference between touch for the sake of touch, with friends, and what makes it erotic touch?
  • how to better communicate the kind of touch you’d live to give and receive in your love life?

The Details: Connecting Through Touch is an experiential, gentle course which will teach you:

  • how to feel pleasure in your hands
  • how to understand the difference between giving, receiving, taking and allowing
  • how to communicate the difference and get clear on what you and the other person are doing, and want to do
  • how to deeply engage with not only the sense of touch, but also the senses of sight, sound, smell and taste

This course is for you if:

  • you’ve felt yourself confused or frustrated about the quality of touch you give and receive
  • you want to feel more comfortable with touching
  • you want to learn better boundaries around touch
  • you want to learn how to communicate what kind of touch you want with more grace and comfort
  • you’re seeking an in-person experience
  • you’re interested in untangling the ways in which giving and receiving get mixed up
  • you want hands-on practice
  • you want to have fun

This course is not for you if:

you want a best practices methodology course that is based on textbooks and reading

Extra details – this course is:

  • fun!
  • experiential – you’ll get hands-on practice, but you always have the choice to sit out of an exercise
  • starts where you’re at – whether you consider yourself a beginner or advanced, you’ll get a lot out of it
  • fully clothed – there is no erotic touch in this workshop
  • draws from the work of Dr. Betty Martin – read about the five day workshop I took with her here.

About your instructor (me)

My wide range of experiences teaching classes in arts and culture, anthropology and literature at York University and Yukon College, and workshops at art centres as well as from my home means I have a deep toolkit of skills to draw upon in service of your learning. I also have experience teaching adults one-on-one as a Hellerwork Structural Integrator (working with posture through movement lessons and deep-tissue massage), which has tuned my ability to connect and empathize. My true passion is for teaching creativity and embodiment. That is, how to access the sensation and experience in your human body and feel good being there.. I’ve also spent a fair bit of time feeling awkward about touch, and receiving pleasure, so I truly do empathize with the confusion and big feelings that can arise. Combine all of the above with a a strong background as a practicing writer, visual artist and dancer, and I’ve become a woman who is deeply keen to share my mix of knowledge and creativity. For even more details about my qualifications, please go to my About page on this site.

What to expect

  • exercises that bring your attention into the sense of touch
  • hands-on exercises that will teach you how to connect with the pleasure that is in your hands
  • exercises in giving and receiving, and how to tell the difference
  • exercises which will untangle the difference in quality of touch between taking, allowing, serving and accepting

What to bring

  • comfy clothes to wear
  • an open mind
  • your lunch (or money to buy lunch downtown Duncan)

You will leave with

  • a clear sense of how to touch well
  • experiences of receiving pleasure through your hands
  • confidence that you can tell the difference between giving and receiving
  • little exercises you can continue to practice at home
  • confidence in your ability to communicate how to touch as well as what you do and don’t want

The Specifics

Downtown Duncan, Vancouver Island, BC

When: Sunday October 25th, 2015

Cost: $145

Time: 10am-5pm


Downtown Whitehorse, Yukon

When: Sunday December 27th, 2015

Cost: $145

Time: 10am-5pm